Cuddle Therapy
helping you through SIDS, premature baby loss
and miscarriage.
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Parents
who have lost a baby to premature birth, miscarriage, SIDS can never be
prepared for the emotional rollercoaster they are to go through.
Every
person grieves in a different way and at a different time scale. There are
no rights or wrongs in how you feel, or don’t feel. The one thing that
they will have in common is that life will never be the same again.
There
are many excellent groups and societies that give support, and again none
are either better or worse than another. Each person must find the
‘right’ support for them.
Having
been through the death of a child myself, it became clear to me that to
loose a child is a ‘different’ kind of grief. You never expect to bury
your child. Life prepares us to give birth to a healthy full-term baby and
enjoy the pleasures of motherhood, to see them develop and grow into
content, well-developed young adults. To have this denied to you is
something that you can’t grasp until it happens to you.
It’s
not just the mother that goes through these emotions. The father,
siblings, grandparents and all extended family all have their own kind of
grief to deal with. Often the extended family is so busy helping the
parents ‘get through’ each day, that their feeling are placed to the
side for a while, only to surface a later date when least expected.
So
why do I think there is another way to help families cope with such a
trauma? Well, because using Cuddle Therapy along with other appropriate
therapies, will bring the ‘negative’ emotion to the surface and then
‘deal’ with it once and for all, leaving you with a more sense of
calm, acceptance and understanding of how/why you feel the way you do.
Leaving
these dark, negative feelings to stagnate only allow the body to store
them as negative energy that will, at some point surface as illness within
the body. I understand this sounds all ‘very well’ and ‘ What’s
she doing talking about ‘energy’, when my baby is dead and all I want
is to have her back and hold her’. Well, that’s why I believe that
Cuddle Therapy works, because it helps ‘change’ the way you ‘feel’
about the situation.
Most people I see that are grieving for a child that they have lost have what I call ‘The Empty Arm Syndrome’. Cuddle Therapy fills those arms with a therapy doll, brings emotions to the surface, where they can be dispersed or changed into positive emotion……helping you to grieve at a ‘better place’.
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We
need to work with other groups so that facilities are improved for
grieving parents within the NHS system. There needs to be much more
support and understanding. Babies born before 24 weeks are not given a
Birth certificate…this needs to change! Every hospital ‘must’ have a
special area where families can say goodbye in their own time and in their
own way. Professionals dealing with SIDS, such as the police, funeral
directors need educating as to how they can best help and support the
parents, immediate and extended family.
These things are not in place everywhere, but we have to work at making it happen. Cuddle Therapy, EFT and other therapies, as well as counseling, can be used to help ‘all’ understand the needs of grieving parents at this time.
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