Cuddle Therapy - Testimonials
children have come to our world to teach us how to love again. If we are
paying attention, we can see how they invite us, in every moment, to
deepen, grow, and open. (
Jill E. Hopkins)
“Each child is a reflection of the divine, each birth an opportunity for us to again learn the great and only lesson of love”
– (Jack Kornfield)
a newborn baby, freshly arrived from a reality of pure love and light,
birth is an exciting yet potentially traumatic event. Its moist, warm,
dark, nourishing mother-womb-heartbeat has been its sanctuary in physical
reality until now. There has been no inside and outside, no mother and
self – just the experience of oneness.
The baby is thrust inexorably into a strange new world. As it emerges, it desperately needs reassurance that it has not been ripped asunder from the oneness. It needs love, warmth, tenderness, gentle light and its mother’s already-familiar voice. Its needs reassurance of skin-to-skin contact with its motherhood an atmosphere of unhurried calm and welcome – a sacred space – so that it can emerge into this new experience with a feeling of safety and trust.
– Gill Edwards: Pure Bliss
being a mother, having given birth pre-term to a low-birth weight baby.
Your baby spends all its early days in an incubator, receiving
life-supporting care, and all you want to do is cuddle and feed her.
like this can make lactation hard to establish, even to be able to use
your own milk and tube feed your baby, feel 'impersonal'. And a
cuddle can seem days, weeks, away.
kind of Trauma are both mother and baby going through? Even with a
natural vaginal birth the mother will still have some kind of Birth
trauma. Her baby will probably have arrived long before its due date
and the birth will have been unexpected. This can leave all kinds of
negative emotions within the body's energy system. Her baby will be
a low birth weight and could have all kinds of medical problems.
Even if baby is healthy for its 'dates', the mother will still not be able
to take care of her newborn the way she would have imagined. If the mother
has had a caesarean then her body will need to 'heal' both physically and
believe Cuddle Therapy can help with this.
can premature birth affect the baby?
I do not want to go into detail of how this could, in some case, be
handled better with a process called Kangaroo Care, of which
details can be found on my website, I do want to show how premature birth
and the aftercare with a premature baby can traumatize the newborn.
the premature/sick newborn painful procedures like injections or blood
tests are carried out routinely, without taking into account the
nightmarish character these acts possess for a tiny defenseless creature.
now know that this leaves the baby with traumatic imprints within the
energy system, which are with the baby throughout the rest of its life and
could, at some point, result in physical illness – Nathalie Charpak:
current knowledge of the brain’s development clearly shows that a
newborn baby resents pain just like you and me. Contrary to what we used
to think, the pain threshold appears to be lower among premature babies.
By the twenty-fourth week after conception, the sensory receptors are
perfectly developed, worst still; the premature baby will experience even
slight pain in a less localized, longer and more vivid way than an older
baby cannot verbalize it suffering: it expresses it either in a change of
behaviour or in extreme modification of certain physiological parameters
such as heart rate or oxygenation, the baby’s heart can stop beating and
a baby can suffocate as a result of intense pain. Research is showing that
some children who have Asthma have indeed been through this experience.
Is this the trauma of what has happened as a baby coming through in
later years, showing itself as a problem with breathing??
showing that suicide – involving asphyxiation were closely associated
with asphyxiation with mechanical birth trauma.
an incubator the level of bright light to which a premature baby is
subjected is five to ten times higher than the level recommended for
office workers. Under a phototherapy lamp, it is even worse; the increased
brightness can reach 250 to 2,500 times the average mean reference that is
acceptable for an adult
noise to which a baby is exposed in an incubator is far greater than the
noise permissible for working adults.
such negative information associated around traumatic births and
problematic aftercare, we need to look at how the baby, and indeed the
mother can be helped to overcome the negativity around this time.
This has led me to Cuddle Therapy and a form of EFT using 'Touch and Breath'. I believe that combined, these therapies can give immense benefit to both mother and baby
these life like dolls, can for the mother, bring comfort to an empty
feeling of being unable to nurse her own baby.
A woman will rock the doll and show all the emotion that she would
if her baby were in her arms. Often
this brings immense emotions to the surface that would, otherwise be
suppressed, only to maybe surface later in depression or physical
dis-ease. When the mother becomes distressed the EFT therapist can use
this opportunity to help the woman by guiding her through the process of
tapping. These dolls seem to
‘allow’ the mother to express her feelings and a trained EFT
practitioner can watch for her reactions and help her at each stage.
the parents wish, these dolls can be used as a surrogate for the tiny/sick
baby in the incubator. Whilst cuddling/holding the doll, the parents are
able to tap/stroke on the EFT tapping points whilst using suitable words
to either comfort the baby or heal.
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a new mother who is unable to hold and cuddle her premature/sick baby
having the opportunity to cuddle one of these dolls. Whilst doing
so, she is helped to express her emotions, by using EFT. Cuddling these
dolls brings all kinds of emotion to the surface, which can then be worked
through, being much healthier for both mother and baby.
have access to one of these special dolls; help the bonding process and
lactation to become successful? I believe it can. Instead of adrenalin
running through the body because the mother is anxious, cuddling one of
these dolls and using EFT can replace that adrenalin with oxytocin, which
is the hormone needed for lactation.
There are many other fields of study that need research. Could this 'Cuddle Therapy' help mothers who have had a stillbirth? Grief that is suppressed and held within the body's energy system, can lead to future physical illness and depression, even Post Natal depression.
Cuddle Therapy with baby.
We know that healing can take place-using 'Intention' and surrogate EFT tapping. The mother can hold her baby and use gently stroke the 'tapping points', click for details. Or if the baby is in an incubator then she can hold one of these dolls and use it as a surrogate, again either stroking the doll and using 'intention'.
words chosen for the setup click for examples and whilst stroking the EFT points,
or 'Touch and Breath can be
'guided' by the qualified EFT therapist. Soon mum will learn
how to do this by herself. Giving her a positive outlook for her
baby’s health. Once positive thoughts replace the negative in her
energy system, her own body will begin to heal.
and Cuddle Therapy could also be used along side
a gift to give both the mother and baby for their future together.
It has been suggested that cuddle therapy along with Holistic care could help raise the hormone levels of woman going through IVF. Also woman going through early menopause. Feeling that they have lost their womanhood by not being able to have any more children. Could these 'dolls' help balance the hormones?
I believe the use of Cuddle Therapy is the way forward to secure a less traumatic future for birthing and care in the neonatal units.