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Emotional ladder |
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Rumi
diagram from Life is a Gift by Gill Edwards
The
emotional ladder (from
Gill Edwards – Life is a Gift)
is likened to the ‘emotional order’ also in the ‘Teachings of
Abraham’. I find it is a
useful ‘tool’ to explain how our emotions can move up and down
depending on what life throws at us. To
stay on the lower rungs of the ladder is not desirable either for us
emotionally or for our health. I explain this in more detail in my
workshops. The
idea of an emotional ladder is useful in understanding where you might
currently find yourself in relation to your overall well being. It will
then assist you in understanding, which emotions you will need to move
up and through in order to get to the higher vibrational states and
hence attract better health. When you first suffer a loss, such as a bereavement it is easy to see how you can feel the emotions of fear, grief, despair, and these are natural emotions at this point. However, to stay here, as you can see by the scale, is not beneficial to health and well-being. If you have ever lost a loved one and felt grief, you may recall that at a later point in time, you felt better once you had moved up through anger. Those around you may have preferred it when you were in grief, as you might of been easier to handle when in grief rather than in anger. However it was necessary for you to move up through anger to then get to the level of courage, and then further up the ladder still, to acceptance and so on. It is important to note that if you do not believe that it is ok to express your anger and therefore you push yourself back down the emotional ladder, you will cause a yoyo effect. Every time you come up to the state of anger you will cause yourself to go back down to states such as fear and grief. You could actually come up and go down repeatedly, keeping yourself stuck for a long time. Be aware that having old emotional baggage come up while working a particular state is normal. You will be well served by implementing strategies that can assist you through your climb up the emotional ladder. No matter where you might find yourself on the emotional ladder, what you want to do is work at feeling better and experience some relief from the current state. When climbing a real ladder you would not think of going from the bottom rung to the top rung in one step, and it is the same idea with the emotional ladder. It is quite normal to travel up and down the ladder at times, whilst grieving. There are many ways to travel this ladder with support, and hopefully on these pages and in my workshops I will be able to explain this.
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